The Subtle Power of Pressure

One of the most fascinating things about horses is how deeply they respond to pressure.

And I don’t just mean physical pressure from a rope, a leg, or a rein.

I mean the pressure we create simply by walking into the pasture.

By where we look.

By the energy we carry in our body.

Horses are always reading this. They don’t separate “physical” from “emotional” pressure — to them, it’s all information.

Nicole’s Story

During a recent horsemanship class, my friend Nicole gave the perfect example.

She was in line at the supermarket checkout. Just as it was her turn, she stepped aside and let someone else go first. Why?

Because right after paying, customers were being cornered by a solar panel salesperson. Nicole could already feel the pressure of his eyes, his posture, his eagerness to make a sale.

By letting the other person go first, she cleverly avoided that overwhelming pressure.

And the truth is — that’s exactly what horses do.

When our presence feels too strong, too direct, or too insistent, their natural response is to avoid engaging. Not because they’re “disrespectful” or “lazy,” but because, just like Nicole, they’re trying to protect their own space.

Flight, Freeze… or Curiosity?

Pressure isn’t inherently bad.

In fact, it’s one of our most important tools for communication.

But the quality of that pressure makes all the difference.

Too much pressure creates flight.

Inconsistent pressure creates confusion.

But the right amount of pressure — clear, steady, and kind — sparks curiosity.

That’s the magical space where learning and connection happen.

How to Create Curiosity Instead of Flight

Start with awareness. Notice what your body is projecting before you even touch your horse.

Soften your focus. Both your eyes and your energy center (your solar plexus) can invite or intimidate. Be mindful of where and how you direct them.

Release as a reward. When your horse tries, even a little, soften your pressure immediately. That’s how they learn to seek the conversation.

Communication with horses isn’t about force.

It’s about timing, presence, and the art of knowing when to step in — and when to step back.

Because in that delicate balance, trust begins to grow.

And trust is what transforms pressure into curiosity.

“Pressure without release creates flight.

Pressure with softness creates curiosity.”

With love and awareness,

Ale